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by Mermaid Sasha
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Well the women is to have the child it is her body which will have all the birth problems, I am afraid to say it has to be the ladies right to give birth or not.Men may not have to carry the child for the term, but can you honestly tell me the man doesnt go through pain and unrest? We have to deal with mood swings, cravings, bed hogs, less hallway space more chores, work harder to make up for lost income, keep her comfortable, and the worst thing ever the man has to see the woman he loves so much in pain. Its not easy for either person, but the man should still have equal say to the child being born or aborted unless it comes down to the pregnancy being life threatening for the woman then she should have full choice and the man should support any decision she makes.
either way the father of the child willl get hurt oif she decides to have that abortion, so I feel lyk he should have a say in the fact.
I think that the fathers should have just as much say because tht baby may not be inside of him but it is just as much a part of him as it is the mother.And just because the baby is in the mother doesn't give her the right to go kill it.ANd everyone says stuff like that what if she has been raped or teh child has deformities..I was looking on the computer for a project and this is what I found..1% of all abortions occur because of rape or incest; 6% of abortions occur because of potential health problems regarding either the mother or child, and 93% of all abortions occur for social reasons (i.e. the child is unwanted or inconvenient).So in reading that I personally think that if you aren't mature enough to raise a baby you aren't mature enough to have sex.
Thank you for bringing this to public attention. There seems to be very little consideration for the father generally in this matter (and most of what there is seems to have a religious agenda, which makes me see red). Recently, I got my girlfriend pregnant. When we found out, my gut reaction was that I really wanted to have the child (but that whatever she decided I would support her as well as I could), but she insisted on aborting it for career reasons. I went with her on the trip to support her (if I hadn't gone with her, her mother would have), and it was one of the hardest things I have ever done; I regret going in to the ultrasound with her now, though I thought I was okay at the time. I can't help thinking "that blob on the ultrasound was my child". I'll never know now whether it was a boy or a girl, what name we would have given it, how it would have turned out, ... weeks later, I'm still here grieving on my own, and she's away on holiday. When we went to the clinic, they counselled her repeatedly, and excluded me from taking part; their most meaningful interaction with me was "so how will you be paying today?" - in person, they seemed far more mercenary, and far less caring, than their more public face would suggest. I was asked to leave the clinic while the procedure was being performed, and come back to collect her in a couple of hours; I got the impression they just didn't want fathers and other companions cluttering up the waiting room, if they weren't making money out of them. There is so much more to this discussion than "the father should have a say because it affects whether he'll have to pay child support". I would have been delighted to bring this child up, together with its mother, but this will never happen now.eyz i see where your coming from but really wouldn't you want to see how ur child would of come out to be . srry it really none of my business but i belive it murder cause use decised to have sex with out protecting urselfs and uses are going to regret it later on when you might not be abale to see how wonderful ur first child would of turned out to be
It takes two to create a child, therefore if a decision should be made about the life of that child it should be discussed between the parents of that child. I tried to view it from various perspectives of if a women was being abused; however, I still feel that the father is apart of that child and rather the women is being abused or not the father should have a say in his child’s life, because not only is it her child, but it is his as well. On the other hand, if she was molested or raped, I feel that would be a different case where the mother, by her self, could do as she pleases. In addition to these cases, the case of a teenager getting pregnant and having to tell her parents, although she is young she still should have a say in whether or not she wants the kid. Her parents will help her, but if she does something that she does not want to do with the child she will be the one to suffer in the long run for what she have done. Personally, I do not agree with abortions; however, I feel the parents, as a whole should decide on the child’s life, not just the mother or the parents of the teenager.
My decision is based on a married couple. I beleave that it does take two people a husband and a wife to create a child and there for it takes both of them to decide whether or not they want to keep the baby. The mother should not have any advantage over the father in this matter just because she is the carrier of the baby for 9 months. If the father wants to keep it that is a decision that will live on with him and he will have to provide for that child for 18 years and then choose from there whether to continue to support the child . Plus most women who get an abortion will have phsycological problems in their future. I am pro fathers envolvment and say in abortion regarding marriage.
i think the fater had just as much right as the mother...yes we woman go through the birth complications and everything else but that baby is just as much his as it is hers...im pregnant now and i asked if he wanted to get abortion we agreed NO... MiA Middleburg, PA
physiologically speaking its technically half the mans baby. and while yes its the womans body and what not, the man has to deal with the child after its born or at least support it financially. i say that the man should maybe or maybe not have a say in abortion but should definatly have a say in wherther they put it up for adoptions and should have the right to cut all ties finacially speaking. hey, if its YOUR baby YOUR body and YOUR choice YOU figure out how to raise it and pay for it on your own.
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